I am turning 30 in 2025 and feel this way a lot! I got laid off this past year and I am single now and live with my parents. I also have anxiety about the future and whether I am doing the right thing for me for the long term. What I try to do is focus on what I currently have and how great what I have is and I just take life one day at a time while being grateful for what I have. I also have to remind myself constantly that comparison is the thief of joy and everyone is on their own path and their own journey.
I really appreciate you sharing things like this and being so open and honest on social media. It’s hard to see everyone else’s highlight reel on social media and your raw honesty is refreshing and I appreciate it more than I can say. It’s nice to not feel so alone.
One of the most incredible parts of sharing is learning how many of us are navigating similar things. It's easy for me to feel alone in that so it's meaningful to hear you share too.
What you focus on helps me too. It not only brings me peace but is empowering to appreciate that I am on my own path and I am the architect of it. It is also overwhelming for the same reason...
Your journey so far involves resiliency, courage, and intentionality and it should be framed as such: “I’m living with my grandmother while building something meaningful to me. It’s not conventional, but it’s the path that feels right for me right now.” The right person for you will understand; it won't be a big deal at all.
I love the idea of imagining advice from your future self. Perhaps a "Grant 2034" letter could help to expand on the messages you mentioned? It might be a good reference when feeling discouraged or unsure. Grant 2034 won't judge you for stumbling; he'll honor your commitment to the process.
I love those ideas. Thank you. A letter could be a great end of year thing to write. I think he would be proud that I stuck to this path despite everything.
Great insight! In the last few Year's, I've been asking this questions to myself and reading about your journey and how you manager this topic is really insightful and truly inspiring.
Hey Grant, happy new year! I love what you said about being present and having more agency. I'm working on these things now, slowly learning to love being where I am and using such agency to set boundaries and focus on my priorities (while being present). There was a time when I was so future-focused that I just stopped enjoying life. It took a triggering experience for me to realize that it's not a good place to be in. I'm grateful I came across this post as a reminder that all in due time; we're still on the right path; at our own pace. Keep inspiring! Much love from The Philippines~
Hi Tammie! Thank you for sharing. I feel this a lot. I am also very future focused and am working on being more present. It's hard, but I feel much better when I do :)
I’m navigating the exact same things as you since my dad passed last year. I’m 28yo, about to graduate and trying to decide whether I find a job related to my course of studies or I just travel the world for a couple of years. Your words and the video about your life lately made me cry and reminded me of a very simple thing that I sometimes forget: it’ll pass and I’ll be able to work it out. It’s a constant reminder that I try to whisper out loud every single day but I find it hard sometimes so I thank you for sharing a piece of your life through a reel that for some reason just popped up on my feed. 🤍
Hi Sofía :) I remind myself of that regularly too especially during the uncertainty before my dad died. "I'll be okay". We just have to keep going. Thank you for sharing and happy new year!
I am 43, no kids, and have never been married or engaged. Thanks to the pandemic, I was forced to start over financially after being unemployed for 8 months and maxing out my credit cards. I went into corporate agency as I needed the job, but after 3 years I was burnt out. Due to health, I was forced to relook at my life and what I spend my time on. Only now am I starting to feel closer to where I want to be, but appreciating the blessings along the way—the new friends, the old friends that remained consistent and supportive—I am blessed to still have both my parents, and for their sake, I am trying my best to remain financially stable as they are in retirement now. It's not easy at 40+ seeing others married, with kids, own homes, travel, etc. I've had to remind myself that I've made different choices in life and refused to settle, so sometimes that's a lonely and different path. I've been working with a business coach, Peter Teuscher; his book "Rethinking Happiness" and his weekly blogs on his website [peterteuscher dot com] have really helped me rethink about what it means to be happy.
I am still trying to figure out why it is that your content and journey has pulled me in. I enjoy reading the newsletter and I guess I love that it challenges me to do and think better. Bless your heart for being vulnerable. I know it can't be easy. Stay blessed.
Hi Ronell. Thank you for sharing. Rebuilding and reinventing ourselves is so, so hard as is taking the non-default path. You have a lot of resilience. I also lean heavily on gratitude. I have so much in life to be grateful for: family, friends, health, new experiences, the choice to take the non-default path. It helps me.
I really like Arthur Brook's thoughts on happiness. I enjoyed his book Build The Life You Want. I think about it often. You might enjoy it :)
Yes all the time(still) and I'm 55 now. I am though pleased what I have achieved in life and I have accepted and pleased now. I feel I need to be around for my parents too, especially as I'm on my own. I do have a job I love but it can be tough at times.
I had to take a really hard decision last year which was to be independent from my parents as the environment was doing me worse than better, and I felt a sense of loss of myself and my dreams as I had to focus on survival instead of “living”, I felt lost for a moment because that was not the purpose I wanted to pursue getting out of there.
But now with taking things slower, not pressuring myself, being kinder to myself and other people, less anxious about who I am and where I am as my peers are now in university or finishing their masters and I am nowhere near that, but it’s okay to not do the same and have a seemingly different path.
hello from Indonesia, i feel the same too. I've lost my mom after battle with tumor last 2016. During covid 2020 to 2022 , my home got flooded and i've lost my car and motorcycle, followed by demolished by my ex office, practically has to find other way to make living, while my father got hospitalized and died in 2021 due to lung cancer. 2022 my long time buddy a dog, died and my boyfriend cheated and broke up. End of December the good news is I've got a better job in the office. Life is hard YES it is, it's like riding a turbulence rollercoaster and I almost gave up. But I always remember what my mom told me, we are born to be struggle, life is up and down, there'll always a be a hope and especially pray all times. I wish you all the best luck of success and health and happiness. Believe in yourself, God Bless
I am appreciate ur feeling same with us to tell to sosial media. I just read & floow ur insta! You are great & appreciate for that! In the same year we walk, same year process will come. Before the end of the year, i share to sosmed about my traumas after 25 yo. It is help me a lot to handle my feeling. Grateful to find this post actually!
When we are still alive in here i trust Jesus be with all of us. It is not about religious but i just trust to Jesus who can handle everything in life. I trust, Jesus loves us. When we are still alive , i just trust God want to use us to spread kindness & words of God ❤️ blessed to read this post!
I am turning 30 in 2025 and feel this way a lot! I got laid off this past year and I am single now and live with my parents. I also have anxiety about the future and whether I am doing the right thing for me for the long term. What I try to do is focus on what I currently have and how great what I have is and I just take life one day at a time while being grateful for what I have. I also have to remind myself constantly that comparison is the thief of joy and everyone is on their own path and their own journey.
I really appreciate you sharing things like this and being so open and honest on social media. It’s hard to see everyone else’s highlight reel on social media and your raw honesty is refreshing and I appreciate it more than I can say. It’s nice to not feel so alone.
One of the most incredible parts of sharing is learning how many of us are navigating similar things. It's easy for me to feel alone in that so it's meaningful to hear you share too.
What you focus on helps me too. It not only brings me peace but is empowering to appreciate that I am on my own path and I am the architect of it. It is also overwhelming for the same reason...
Your journey so far involves resiliency, courage, and intentionality and it should be framed as such: “I’m living with my grandmother while building something meaningful to me. It’s not conventional, but it’s the path that feels right for me right now.” The right person for you will understand; it won't be a big deal at all.
I love the idea of imagining advice from your future self. Perhaps a "Grant 2034" letter could help to expand on the messages you mentioned? It might be a good reference when feeling discouraged or unsure. Grant 2034 won't judge you for stumbling; he'll honor your commitment to the process.
I love those ideas. Thank you. A letter could be a great end of year thing to write. I think he would be proud that I stuck to this path despite everything.
Great insight! In the last few Year's, I've been asking this questions to myself and reading about your journey and how you manager this topic is really insightful and truly inspiring.
I'm happy to hear it :) Thanks for reading
Hey Grant, happy new year! I love what you said about being present and having more agency. I'm working on these things now, slowly learning to love being where I am and using such agency to set boundaries and focus on my priorities (while being present). There was a time when I was so future-focused that I just stopped enjoying life. It took a triggering experience for me to realize that it's not a good place to be in. I'm grateful I came across this post as a reminder that all in due time; we're still on the right path; at our own pace. Keep inspiring! Much love from The Philippines~
Hi Tammie! Thank you for sharing. I feel this a lot. I am also very future focused and am working on being more present. It's hard, but I feel much better when I do :)
I’m navigating the exact same things as you since my dad passed last year. I’m 28yo, about to graduate and trying to decide whether I find a job related to my course of studies or I just travel the world for a couple of years. Your words and the video about your life lately made me cry and reminded me of a very simple thing that I sometimes forget: it’ll pass and I’ll be able to work it out. It’s a constant reminder that I try to whisper out loud every single day but I find it hard sometimes so I thank you for sharing a piece of your life through a reel that for some reason just popped up on my feed. 🤍
((Happy new year!🙂))
Hi Sofía :) I remind myself of that regularly too especially during the uncertainty before my dad died. "I'll be okay". We just have to keep going. Thank you for sharing and happy new year!
I am 43, no kids, and have never been married or engaged. Thanks to the pandemic, I was forced to start over financially after being unemployed for 8 months and maxing out my credit cards. I went into corporate agency as I needed the job, but after 3 years I was burnt out. Due to health, I was forced to relook at my life and what I spend my time on. Only now am I starting to feel closer to where I want to be, but appreciating the blessings along the way—the new friends, the old friends that remained consistent and supportive—I am blessed to still have both my parents, and for their sake, I am trying my best to remain financially stable as they are in retirement now. It's not easy at 40+ seeing others married, with kids, own homes, travel, etc. I've had to remind myself that I've made different choices in life and refused to settle, so sometimes that's a lonely and different path. I've been working with a business coach, Peter Teuscher; his book "Rethinking Happiness" and his weekly blogs on his website [peterteuscher dot com] have really helped me rethink about what it means to be happy.
I am still trying to figure out why it is that your content and journey has pulled me in. I enjoy reading the newsletter and I guess I love that it challenges me to do and think better. Bless your heart for being vulnerable. I know it can't be easy. Stay blessed.
Hi Ronell. Thank you for sharing. Rebuilding and reinventing ourselves is so, so hard as is taking the non-default path. You have a lot of resilience. I also lean heavily on gratitude. I have so much in life to be grateful for: family, friends, health, new experiences, the choice to take the non-default path. It helps me.
I really like Arthur Brook's thoughts on happiness. I enjoyed his book Build The Life You Want. I think about it often. You might enjoy it :)
Yes all the time(still) and I'm 55 now. I am though pleased what I have achieved in life and I have accepted and pleased now. I feel I need to be around for my parents too, especially as I'm on my own. I do have a job I love but it can be tough at times.
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I had to take a really hard decision last year which was to be independent from my parents as the environment was doing me worse than better, and I felt a sense of loss of myself and my dreams as I had to focus on survival instead of “living”, I felt lost for a moment because that was not the purpose I wanted to pursue getting out of there.
But now with taking things slower, not pressuring myself, being kinder to myself and other people, less anxious about who I am and where I am as my peers are now in university or finishing their masters and I am nowhere near that, but it’s okay to not do the same and have a seemingly different path.
We will figure it out!
dear Grant,
hello from Indonesia, i feel the same too. I've lost my mom after battle with tumor last 2016. During covid 2020 to 2022 , my home got flooded and i've lost my car and motorcycle, followed by demolished by my ex office, practically has to find other way to make living, while my father got hospitalized and died in 2021 due to lung cancer. 2022 my long time buddy a dog, died and my boyfriend cheated and broke up. End of December the good news is I've got a better job in the office. Life is hard YES it is, it's like riding a turbulence rollercoaster and I almost gave up. But I always remember what my mom told me, we are born to be struggle, life is up and down, there'll always a be a hope and especially pray all times. I wish you all the best luck of success and health and happiness. Believe in yourself, God Bless
I am appreciate ur feeling same with us to tell to sosial media. I just read & floow ur insta! You are great & appreciate for that! In the same year we walk, same year process will come. Before the end of the year, i share to sosmed about my traumas after 25 yo. It is help me a lot to handle my feeling. Grateful to find this post actually!
When we are still alive in here i trust Jesus be with all of us. It is not about religious but i just trust to Jesus who can handle everything in life. I trust, Jesus loves us. When we are still alive , i just trust God want to use us to spread kindness & words of God ❤️ blessed to read this post!