Hi Grant, I just came across your writing. My dad passed away four years ago. At the time, I was 56 years old, a grown up man. I cried for days, felt so sad. He died at the age of 81 from a heart attack without prior warning. The loss is always there, but sometimes it hits harder. My mum and I, we talk a lot of my dad. We were very close as a family. so everything is linked to him or to a shared memory.
Of course, life goes on and has to. I am doing my work, meet friends, do sports, read. One must not stop this. But all of a sudden, a memory strikes me: a place we have been to together, a phrase he often used. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I just remember him, even smile.
Hi Norman. I resonate with this. Yes, life must go on, but there is a lot of grief and sadness there too. It's less predictable than I expected it to be. It makes me happy to think of you and your mom talking about him. We talk about my dad too. :) Thank you for sharing. It helps.
I was visiting with a dear friend recently. She's recovering from open heart surgery and I wanted to break up her boredom. We chatted about a lot of great memories and what our friends are going through at the moment. One friend lost her husband just a couple weeks prior just as she was emerging from a several month long coma. what a wallop. My friend I was visiting reminded me of her husbands loss and how her grieving took several twists and turns that really had her screwed up, until she sought grief counseling. She said that helped her understand how SHE processed grief, and reminded me (and now you) that everyone grieves differently in their own time. Don't schedule it, just go with it and understand it.
Hi Matt. Thank you for sharing. It's helpful. Hearing other's loss does bring up our own. I am also learning how I process grief although I often question if I am processing it? I'm trying to go with it though and trust myself.
Your dad was a young man I’m guessing. I just lost my dad who would have been 90 this past Saturday. While I miss him my grief isn’t life changing bc his life was full. He saw great grandchildren and at 88 what else can you expect? It’s the circle of life. Not sure how I would have handled it had I lost him long ago
My dad was 73. While I don't feel like his death was tragic, he died relatively quickly and unexpectedly. I feel like he missed a phase of life. He still lived a good life though. There is a lot to be grateful for.
Grief comes in cycles. And it’s weird to feel guilty about cycles which are like nature — have their own ways.
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I like this perspective :) Thank you for sharing
“Grief is hard enough by itself without additional, arbitrary expectations.“
This touched me deeply. I’ve been struggling with guilt on top of my grief, but I’m learning how to recognize it and let the guilt go.
Thank you for sharing your feelings so beautifully!
We got this :)
Hi Grant, I just came across your writing. My dad passed away four years ago. At the time, I was 56 years old, a grown up man. I cried for days, felt so sad. He died at the age of 81 from a heart attack without prior warning. The loss is always there, but sometimes it hits harder. My mum and I, we talk a lot of my dad. We were very close as a family. so everything is linked to him or to a shared memory.
Of course, life goes on and has to. I am doing my work, meet friends, do sports, read. One must not stop this. But all of a sudden, a memory strikes me: a place we have been to together, a phrase he often used. Sometimes I cry, sometimes I just remember him, even smile.
I wish you and your loved ones the very best!
Hi Norman. I resonate with this. Yes, life must go on, but there is a lot of grief and sadness there too. It's less predictable than I expected it to be. It makes me happy to think of you and your mom talking about him. We talk about my dad too. :) Thank you for sharing. It helps.
I was visiting with a dear friend recently. She's recovering from open heart surgery and I wanted to break up her boredom. We chatted about a lot of great memories and what our friends are going through at the moment. One friend lost her husband just a couple weeks prior just as she was emerging from a several month long coma. what a wallop. My friend I was visiting reminded me of her husbands loss and how her grieving took several twists and turns that really had her screwed up, until she sought grief counseling. She said that helped her understand how SHE processed grief, and reminded me (and now you) that everyone grieves differently in their own time. Don't schedule it, just go with it and understand it.
Hi Matt. Thank you for sharing. It's helpful. Hearing other's loss does bring up our own. I am also learning how I process grief although I often question if I am processing it? I'm trying to go with it though and trust myself.
Your dad was a young man I’m guessing. I just lost my dad who would have been 90 this past Saturday. While I miss him my grief isn’t life changing bc his life was full. He saw great grandchildren and at 88 what else can you expect? It’s the circle of life. Not sure how I would have handled it had I lost him long ago
My dad was 73. While I don't feel like his death was tragic, he died relatively quickly and unexpectedly. I feel like he missed a phase of life. He still lived a good life though. There is a lot to be grateful for.