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I love reading your updates—they’re very inspiring. It feels like I’m reading my own thoughts (even though I’m not much of a writer, haha). You’ve got this!

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This means so much. Thank you 😊

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recently had a friend pass and your reels have resonated with me in a different way thanks for sharing

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Thank you for sharing. It helps to know other's are going through similar things. ❤️

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Yeah, it's good that there are other outlets. Grief wasn’t something I expected to face this year.

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yeah, same

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A podcast doesn't have to be social. I remember listening to a podcast by a person I admired a while back and it was just him; he would have guests and talk to them but in the end it was just him speaking and it felt like I was catching up with a friend; he was talking to me and not just to his co-hosts. Anyway, it could work.

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Huh, do you remember the podcast? I like the social aspect of the podcast, but, you're right, it wouldn't have to just be interviews. Thanks for the idea.

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These are so soothing to read. Also, that picture of your nan in her kitchen is beautiful. What kind of camera do you use or is that just on a phone?

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Thank you for saying this! It made me happy to read. I do like that photo :) just a phone!

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Hi Grant! I first discovered you on Instagram and so appreciate your voice/all that you share, both around your dad's passing and about life in general. Thank you for your transparency and vulnerability!

A former client of mine is a company called Empathy. They have an app to help folks navigate the logistics of bereavement and have a robust resource library on their site: https://www.empathy.com/learn. There might be some helpful info there.

Rooting for you and sending positive energy your way in this next chapter!

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Thank you for the rec! I'll check them out. Also getting the domain empathy.com is impressive...

Thank you for the support and for watching / reading too. 😊

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Hi Grant! I’m Chris. I really enjoyed this update. It felt like we were two friends who haven’t chatted in a while catching up over coffee. Of course it was your part to do all of the talking. :) I’m the listener. Thank you for the chat. 🤗

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Thank you for reading :)

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If you've enjoyed the Pride and Prejudice audio book, I wholeheartedly suggest watching the movie. I've seen the original and remakes, and cheesy as it may sound I like the remake with Keira Knightly the best. It's lovely. Best wishes to you as you embark on a newly defined journey through all the challenges and rewards life graces us with around every turn. ❤️

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I plan to! I've heard good things about both.

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I love Pride & Prejudice I’m glad you’re enjoying it. ❤️

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Hey Grant, we share a lot of similarities. It’s actually crazy. I’m 29. I’m living with my grandma right now. I lost a parent (my mom) in Nov. 2023. I’m trying to get back into the dating pool. What have you found to be most successful to find women you want to date?

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Hi Phillip, those are a lot of similarities! It's nice to hear from people walking similar paths. I'm trying to figure that out too! Dating apps have helped some. I've met some cool people from them, and it's an easy step. There's a lot to be said for meeting people irl though.

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Social media has robbed me of my focus and I read your entry word by word. Definitely keep it up. I agree with another comment, it felt like my own thoughts, even though I am not going through what you are. You also managed to keep it brief yet there's lots of feelings in your words. Love it.

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That's so kind, thank you :)

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I resonate with a lot of your current experience in core ways. I am also feeling excitement, grief, peace, all the above. I turned 30 this year and I have had a hard time with it. It being a milestone year, it has made me reflect on all that I’ve lost and all that I’ve gained over 3 decades. All of it unimaginable. I think what I have found to be the most important and unexpected part of this life is that all these things can be contained in a moment - deep grief and immeasurable joy - without competing with one another or stepping over each other. Both seemingly opposite emotions can exist in all their depth and broadness in the same moment. When I stopped making the emotions compete with one another about who would get to stay, I found the third emotion: peace.

I hope you find all that it is that brings you peace, joy, wisdom, goodness, all the riches of life…

L

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I've learned that this last year myself. There are many different parts of me and many different emotions. They don't act in logical ways like I used to think. I hear you on peace too. There is an acceptance of the human experience that brings me some peace as well. Thanks for sharing :)

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Love following your Instagram. Ever thought of self publishing a cookery book? The meals you cook look wonderful. Just a thought…xx

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I haven't! I've thought about publishing writing, but am sticking with the Substack for now

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Hi Grant! I would like to comment about your estate processing. It can be very frustrating since banks have this checklist that is needed to be followed. As I work in the industry, estate transfer is probably the slowest transaction (frustrating thing) to do. I suggest you open joint accounts just in case these kind of situations happen again. Its a plus to meet good lawyer / law firm that will help smoothen the process.

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You can email me and I can give you more insight on the non-legal aspect of the estate settlement.

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I love Tartine! My cousin lives in Santa Monica, and I go to Tartine when I visit. I love reading your posts, my Dad passed away Dec 2020, he was 97, so reading your posts about your Dad made me think of my Dad. Thank you for sharing about your grief, memories, etc. Since it was during Covid, I had limited time to spend with him, as he was in LA, and I was in Seattle.

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Hi Sue :) Tartine is great. I used to go in SF so it's nice to rediscover it in LA. Losing someone in covid would be particularly hard. I can imagine that adds another layer of emotion to the grief. Thank you for reading and sharing.

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I love getting to read your updates in this format! I worked for an estate attorney for a few years and an attorney is a great resource if you start to feel overwhelmed and like you’re needing assistance. We handled all of the details for our clients and I know in their time of grief they always appreciated not having to navigate it alone. Sending love from the east coast!

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I'm glad you enjoy them! And we're working with an attorney on the probate side right now. Good to know they can handle more if need be.

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